Holiday etiquette: be a good guest

Holiday parties start at Thanksgiving and will continue until New Year’s Eve. One way to procure invitations to the best get-togethers is by minding one’s manners. Earn a place on everyone’s party guest list by following a few common sense rules.

  • Never show up uninvited.
  • Always RSVP when asked to on an invitation.
  • Arrive on time.
  • Never bring extra guests without consulting the host or hostess.
  • Never bring a pet without permission.
  • Avoid drama; do not bring up controversial topics with other guests.
  • Abstain from rude remarks about the food or refreshments.
  • Before bringing your own bottle, always discuss it with the host.
  • Never smoke inside a non-smoking house.
  • Only take food home if the host offers it.
  • Offer to help, especially with the clean up.
  • Know when to leave.

Arriving with a hostess gift is a thoughtful way to show appreciation for the invitation. A hostess gift can be something intended to be shared at that function, or something personal for the host or hostess to enjoy later. Scented candles, a bottle of wine (or sparkling cider or grape juice for teetotalers), or a box of chocolates are a few options.

Not every party is going to be a good party. There will be ones that end much too soon, and others that could not end soon enough. Make the best of them all. A good rule of thumb is “when in Rome, do as the Romans do”. In other words, go with the flow. Allow the host or hostess to direct the activites.


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